Tuesday, April 6, 2010
Okay, Enough Already!
Let me preface by saying a giant THANK YOU to the few people who read here and to my family and close friends because you all are not the guilty ones of whom I speak in this post...
Okay, but the rest of the world -- attention please: The news that someone is having a child of the same sex for the second or third time (or more!) in a row is really not a reason to take pity on them.
When you ask me what I'm having and I tell you (usually rather enthusiastically I might add... and if you don't hear the enthusiasm, it's because I'm already dreading your potential response) "It's another boy!" The right response is NOT "Oh... should I say congratulations or were you hoping for a girl?" Nor is it, "Oh... that's too bad, you were probably hoping for a girl." NOR is it, "Oh, I feel so sorry for you!"
Okay, I realize some of these are knee jerk responses made without any malice, and I'm sure I've made similar remarks to people myself over the years. But really, I can tell you from this side of the fence now, I really do not need sympathy that I'm having a having another boy. He is healthy! He is going to be born into a wonderful family with two big brothers! And for the last time, I do not need a daughter to feel fulfilled as a mother, nor was I particularly hoping for a girl over a boy.
Here's the deal. God has given me three little boys. That is what I'm supposed to have and as far as I'm concerned, it's absolutely perfect. God has also given me a perfect little niece who lives nearby on whom I can dote and thusly really, I have the best of both worlds.
So really, enough with the pity. There are plenty of people out there who don't get healthy babies out of this whole baby-making adventure and who would kill to have even just one of ANYTHING. No way in heck I am going to complain because God didn't see to it to make sure I had a variety.
Actually, if you want to take pity on me, take pity on that fact that I am going to be ridiculously whale-like and hot (and not like, good-looking hot) all summer long. This 80-degree spring day is nearly doing me in!
Okay, but the rest of the world -- attention please: The news that someone is having a child of the same sex for the second or third time (or more!) in a row is really not a reason to take pity on them.
When you ask me what I'm having and I tell you (usually rather enthusiastically I might add... and if you don't hear the enthusiasm, it's because I'm already dreading your potential response) "It's another boy!" The right response is NOT "Oh... should I say congratulations or were you hoping for a girl?" Nor is it, "Oh... that's too bad, you were probably hoping for a girl." NOR is it, "Oh, I feel so sorry for you!"
Okay, I realize some of these are knee jerk responses made without any malice, and I'm sure I've made similar remarks to people myself over the years. But really, I can tell you from this side of the fence now, I really do not need sympathy that I'm having a having another boy. He is healthy! He is going to be born into a wonderful family with two big brothers! And for the last time, I do not need a daughter to feel fulfilled as a mother, nor was I particularly hoping for a girl over a boy.
Here's the deal. God has given me three little boys. That is what I'm supposed to have and as far as I'm concerned, it's absolutely perfect. God has also given me a perfect little niece who lives nearby on whom I can dote and thusly really, I have the best of both worlds.
So really, enough with the pity. There are plenty of people out there who don't get healthy babies out of this whole baby-making adventure and who would kill to have even just one of ANYTHING. No way in heck I am going to complain because God didn't see to it to make sure I had a variety.
Actually, if you want to take pity on me, take pity on that fact that I am going to be ridiculously whale-like and hot (and not like, good-looking hot) all summer long. This 80-degree spring day is nearly doing me in!
// posted by Erin @ 3:41 PM 
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Agreed. The only pity will come when it's the dog days of summer and you don't want to move off the basement couch like I did.
I just read how baby Josie Duggar is just coming home from the hospital. It's things like that that make you realize about how precious life is.
I just read how baby Josie Duggar is just coming home from the hospital. It's things like that that make you realize about how precious life is.
Maybe you need to figure out a response to the "what are you having?" question that preempts the negative/pity response. Something semi-snarky that will keep their mouths shut.
I guess could do the obnoxious "A healthy baby!" response, but ick. Dunno. will have to ponder that. Maybe, "the final member of my husband's golf foursome"?
i know the feeling!! ha ha...i was talking to a man in the christian bookstore yesterday about how we only get over a few times a year and make a point of coming to that store. he asked how we travel over and i said well with 4 boys 5 and under its easiest to drive over.... he said 4 BOYS, 5 and under? i said yep! he said..."Lord bless you!" i just laughed!! yes we are crazy but i wouldn't change a thing. sure i would love a girl, but that is totally up to God =)
Erin, I was just out shopping this morning and noticed nursery decorations at TJMaxx. I immediately thought of you and realized that I hadn't logged into your blog to find out what the sex of baby 3 is. Congratulations!!!!! I can't wait to see what he looks like and see his little personality develop here!
A-freaking-men. I only have two and I get loads of "so, when are you trying for a girl?" comments; I imagine it's way worse for you. I'm sure people have the best of intentions and are just trying to make conversation since it's statistically rarer to have three boys in a row than not...but still! I LOVE that I have only boys, but more importantly, LOVE that I was lucky enough to birth two healthy human babies. Since you are a person of reason, I know you feel the same way.
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